How to Edit Your Facebook Friends List So No One Can See It

© sashazamarasha - Fotolia.comData mining and friend list poaching has been a problem on Facebook for years. This can range from professional scams down to “real life” fringe friends simply wanting to market to the friends of people they come across. I first became aware of this problem when I noticed some people involved in a multi-level marketing company started friend-requesting my teenage daughters. They were people I had accepted as Facebook friends because part of my niche in the direct sales world is the segment of MLM distributors. I assumed they were interested in my social media training or had met me at an event. Instead what they were doing was friending me to get access to my “list” which they assumed would be people open to learning about a new business opportunity. This is spam and not cool.

The scammers today target your contact lists either through creating fake accounts that mimic real people’s accounts or just create a profile that is believable. Usually these accounts – real or fake – will friend-request someone and when your friend sees they have a mutual friend in you, they’re more likely to accept the request, since they trust your judgement. After all, if you’re their friend, they must be OK! Once they have access to your friends’ Facebook accounts, they will often have access to their contact information, personal information and even birth date and year, if your friends have  not set their privacy settings up to protect that information.

So the solution to this is two-fold.

Step by Step Instructions for Hiding Your Friend List

1) Only accept friend requests from either people you know or who have interacted with you in some way online or offline. Maybe they are a member of a group you are in, or commented on your fan page, or they attended an event where you were or otherwise know you. Sometimes you can’t tell just by looking at someone’s profile – message them back and ask what the connection might be. Or do what I do and simply reply that although you appreciate them reaching out to you, you are limiting your personal Facebook and would prefer to connect on your business page, and give them the link. If it is someone who has a legitimate reason for wanting to be your friend they will reply with more information or an explanation. If their only intent was to spam you, or they are a bot, they won’t.

2) Protect your list of Facebook friends so they can’t be poached. By default, on Facebook, everyone can see who everyone else is friends with. But you can edit this setting so that you are the only one who can see your list of friends. Here’s how:

1:  Visit your personal Timeline (click your name) and then click on the Friends tab under your cover photo.

2: Click the little pencil icon to the right to be able to edit this section.

How to Hide Your List of Facebook Friends

 

3: Once you click the pencil icon, choose, Edit Privacy.

How to Hide Your List of Facebook Friends

4: Click the little down arrow next to each section that you want to change from Friends to Only Me. Click Close and your changes will be saved.

How to Hide Your List of Facebook Friends

Have you had any experience with friend poaching or been a victim of data mining? Share your experience or any other solutions you’ve come up with in the comments. For more information on this issue, visit Facecrooks’ article, Fake Facebook Profiles and Pages.

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  • Charlene Kingston May 28, 2013, 2:49 pm

    Thanks for sharing this, Karen. I didn’t know I could make my friend list private. I spend most of my time focused on business use of Facebook and not personal. I’ve changed my settings thanks to your article. I’ve also shared it on my Facebook business page.

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    • Karen Clark
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      May 28, 2013, 8:29 pm

      Great – it always amazes me how Facebook hides these little things from people! I am glad you saw this and thank you for sharing!

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  • Christine June 10, 2013, 10:01 pm

    Oh, I am so glad you posted this. I hadn’t heard of this before. Since I started liking pages through welikeetsy.com, I have gotten so, so many friend requests. I am having a hard enough time keeping my personal page personal….for my own sanity, I cannot friend people I don’t know. Now I am really glad I haven’t.

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  • Arla DeField - SayingNoWithoutFeelingGuilty.com June 14, 2013, 9:24 pm

    Thanks for a very clear tutorial! I privatized my friends list and shared a link to your blog so my friends can hopefully do the same!

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  • Gena June 26, 2013, 5:37 am

    Thanks, Karen! As the parent of new media users, this is aptly timed.

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  • Michelle Spear July 11, 2013, 5:25 am

    Thanks Karen! I didn’t know this, and I’m sure a lot of people don’t either. This is great information…thanks for sharing!

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  • Ameer July 23, 2013, 10:00 pm

    Thanks so much.. This was extremely helpful from a teenage point of view

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  • Karen Clark
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    July 24, 2013, 2:08 am

    You are welcome everyone! I know what it is like to be worried about this stuff!

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  • KaziKalam September 9, 2013, 7:51 am

    Thank You

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  • chris October 9, 2013, 2:16 am

    hello. is there a way to make it so I can change who it is? I dont want to see certain people on there that I have to see every day without deleting them! :-)
    or if not, make it so noone including me sees it

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    • Karen Clark
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      October 29, 2013, 9:58 pm

      Do you mean hide the people’s posts? You can go to the person in question and click on the Friends button – then UNcheck the Show in Newsfeed option. Maybe even click on Edit Settings and make sure everything there is unchecked as well. Then you will still stay friends with them but their posts will not show up. You would need to go to their timeline to see what they are up to. I hope that helps!

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  • shahid November 28, 2013, 6:17 am

    thanks its helpful

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  • Ian December 8, 2013, 5:08 pm

    I have a person I want to add to my Friends. However, I do not want him to show up in my friends list. Is it possible to add and hide him so no one (friends and non-friends) can see him?

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    • Karen Clark
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      December 8, 2013, 5:21 pm

      Only if you have your entire friends list hidden as explained above. You cannot hide only one friendship.

      Reply
  • Aman December 24, 2013, 10:01 am

    KAREN CLARK, Bundles of thanks . Its such an helpful instructions I got from you.
    Actually i been searching how to hide my friend list, but i couldn’t find till i came across through this site.
    Cause of i this matter i been disappear from Facebook for quite long time .
    Thanks Again….

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    • Karen Clark
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      December 26, 2013, 7:21 pm

      Wonderful Aman! I am so glad it was helpful and that you found what you needed. Have a great 2014!

      Reply
  • Neece December 27, 2013, 4:46 am

    I want to make it so a friend of mine cannot see when another friend like or comment on my page…is that possible? Or maybe making it so I can only see what one of my friends like or comment on my page

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    • Karen Clark
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      December 27, 2013, 5:18 pm

      Hi Neece – No there is no way to do what you are wanting. The only way to come close to that would be to exclude that 1 friend from even SEEing the posts. When you post something change the “audience” from Friends to Custom and within there you can hide a post from specific people. You would need to do that on any post you don’t want that person to see (and therefore they can’t like/comment on it) but that isn’t exactly what you are asking. Sorry.

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  • Scarlett January 1, 2014, 3:23 pm

    Hi! I was just wondering, if your friends list is hidden can your friends see any new friends you add, ie news feed etc?

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    • Karen Clark
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      January 2, 2014, 6:30 pm

      Yes they can but you can control that in the Friends Setting. Go to your profile, click the Activity Log button on your cover image, then click the little gray MORE on the left sidebar under Comments, and then click Friends. First – you might want to change “Who can see my friends list” to “Only Me” and then right next to that there’s this little guy drop down menu – uncheck all the boxes there and your “friend activity” won’t go out. I just posted about this today here https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10153640428335471&set=a.10150651958600471.691120.644775470&type=1

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  • Scarlett January 5, 2014, 5:20 pm

    Brilliant! Thanks so much for your help! Its a shame that a little privacy can seem so elusive these days!!

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    • Karen Clark
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      January 5, 2014, 6:02 pm

      I agree Scarlett! Glad this was helpful for you!

      Reply
  • Sybille Muir January 7, 2014, 4:58 pm

    Hi thanks for the advice which worked straight away on my sons fb page, however there is no option like this on my fb page. Is that because i have fb friends already categorised to limit what they can see? Not sure why that would be the case as i want my friends list only to be visible to me. Your help would be much appreciated

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    • Karen Clark
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      January 7, 2014, 5:27 pm

      Wow that is strange… If they are both personal Facebook accounts it should work… I have my friends in “lists” also and it works. I am really not sure, unless it is some kind of Facebook glitch. Try again later? Sorry I can’t be of more help.

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  • Indu January 15, 2014, 1:13 am

    Hello Karen ,

    I want to make my fb profile too privacy (by search with my name and email id). So could you plz help me out and more over i m not at all getting notifications from friends regarding their activities (like posts,profile pics changes etc.. )

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    • Karen Clark
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      January 27, 2014, 8:17 pm

      Hi Indu – Use this link to set “Who can look me up?” to be “Friends Only” so that non-friends cannot find you. As for seeing all your friends notifications, go to their timeline and under the Friends button click for a drop down menu and select Get Notifications. That should help!

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  • Doyle Hinson February 9, 2014, 8:52 am

    Thanks for the article, Karen! I’ve done as you suggested, but put it to the test having someone else who is NOT a friend on fb search me, and my friends list does indeed show up for her to view, and vice versa. She made the same change to her settings that you outlined, and we checked back and they were saved, but the friends in her are visible to me as well. We both marked “Only Me”. I wonder what is up with this…

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    • Karen Clark
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      February 10, 2014, 8:15 pm

      Oh No! I hope FB hasn’t taken this ability away. Why would they?? Ugh! And to still allow you to mark it as Only Me but not actually have it be visible to Only You … Makes me wonder what else we think is private (or semi-) but isn’t. I will investigate more and post an update if I find anything out. Thanks for testing it! The original post was a year ago so it would not surprise me that there’s been a change but it’s frustrating.

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  • marko February 22, 2014, 10:35 am

    yes I make that ,but someone who is not my friend give me my friend list with all my friends !!! and now want to public something to all of my friends,how to stop that?

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    • Karen Clark
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      February 24, 2014, 5:22 pm

      Hmmm that is unusual. I will look into that.

      Reply
  • Uzzal Ahammed February 23, 2014, 9:57 am

    Thank you.

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  • Rae March 6, 2014, 10:25 am

    How do I Stop my friends from seeing my post without me un friending them?

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    • Karen Clark
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      March 6, 2014, 11:09 am

      You need to either unfriend them or add them to the Restricted Friend List – go to their profile and click on the Friends button and click Add to Another List. If you choose RESTRICTED then they can ONLY see posts you mark as Public – they will not see any posts marked as going to “friends” that way.

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  • sushilktewai April 21, 2014, 5:53 am

    Mam,
    But if We have any mutual friend,then My Friend can see them (list of mutual Friend).
    Kindly help.

    Regards

    Sushil

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    • Karen Clark
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      April 22, 2014, 8:02 pm

      Ahh yes if there are mutual friends they will see who the mutual friends are. There is no way to hide that which I know of. They should not be able to see your other friends though.

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