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Stop Annoying People on Facebook

Stop Annoying People on FacebookI’ve gotten great reviews of my Facebook Do’s and Don’ts report that you can get when you subscribe to my newsletter. Since writing that though I’ve noticed even more “bad behavior” on Facebook! A lot of it coming from so-called Social Media consultants. I decided to poll people on my Twitter and Fan Page to see what the most annoying Facebook behaviors are. Here is what we came up with – do you see yourself in any of these? Then knock it off! 🙂

  1. If you’re an active Twitter user, do not have your Tweets feed into your Facebook Profile or Business Page – it’s too much, too often, and uses too much Twitter lingo – it’s annoying. Disconnect the auto-publish and either use Selective Tweets to share occasional Tweets, or turn it off completely.
  2. Don’t constantly send gifts, badges, eggs, hearts or other “cutesie” items to people. Once in a while, and for a reason, is OK, but not over and over and over.
  3. Don’t tag people who aren’t actually IN the picture, note, or video. That’s “tag spam.”
  4. Don’t authorize your game apps to post to your Wall (and therefore OUR news feeds) every time you score, win, kill someone or need help. If you must share, post manually not automatically.
  5. Don’t post something dramatic leaving out crucial information – such as “Oh my gosh I can’t believe it!” – without giving the details. Don’t make us beg, it’s annoying and manipulative. If you don’t want to tell, don’t post. If you do want to tell, then tell!
  6. Don’t post your own self-promotional junk on someone else’s Business Page wall. Would you go into a brick and mortar store and plaster posters about your business?
  7. Don’t use Messages to spam people you don’t even communicate with. Messages are for friends who want to have a more private conversation.
  8. Don’t use the Events as a way to promote a non-event such as running an event that runs Nov. 1 to Nov. 30 and the event is “Join My Business Opportunity” – bad form!
  9. Repeatedly negative posts – whining, ranting, venting, complaining about how bad your life is. How is this adding to anyone’s life?
  10. Constantly inviting friends to participate in games – Chances are if we ignored or blocked one, we won’t agree to any of them, so stop inviting us please.
  11. Don’t repost something original and brilliant a friend or Page said without asking permission and/or giving them credit for it. Use the “Share” link so it says “via so and so” or tag them in the post or at least say “Thanks to Susie Q for this great tip” for example.
  12. Don’t keep suggesting I Like your Page over and over and over. If I am ignoring you, I am IGNORING you. There’s no way for me to block the suggestion so please take a hint. A general rule of thumb is to invite someone once, and maybe once again in a couple weeks and then stop. A generic “share” of your Business Page link to your wall occasionally is enough to remind people and give them a chance to choose whether to join you.
  13. If you’re using FB for business, and aren’t a good speller or have a decent command of your primary language – consider having someone proofread for you  – or compose in Word and use spellcheck/grammar check. A minor typo here and there is one thing, but improper English and obviously misspelled words reflects poorly on you as a business.
  14. Don’t put your personal problems out there on Facebook and then get mad when people jump in with advice or their opinion. If you don’t want a discussion, don’t bring it up.
  15. Don’t start drama on Facebook. Do you know how that makes you look to others?
  16. Don’t reply to a status update or a post on your wall by going to the other person’s wall and starting a new post. Just click ‘Comment”
  17. Don’t post personal things on someone’s wall or status update that should be private or could be embarrassing.
  18. Don’t post overtly sexual remarks or use profane language. If you wouldn’t say it in the company of strangers or friends of friends, don’t say it in public on Facebook.
  19. Do not post business related items over and over on your personal profile. We tune you out!
  20. And last but not least, we do not need a play by play of your day, every 5 minutes!

🙂 What would you add?

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  1. Celeste Mirassou, CFP (R) on November 10, 2010 at 5:57 pm

    Did I got my first message from someone who sent a mass message to all her FB friends offering to rent her home over the Thanksgiving weekend. I sure hope that this type of messaging doesn’t become a trend.

    • Karen
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      on December 5, 2010 at 8:56 pm

      Yes this is truly annoying!

  2. Karen
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    on November 12, 2010 at 10:53 pm

    Great comments everyone! And yes of course feel free to share!!

  3. Karen
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    on January 10, 2011 at 11:38 pm

    That is really bad Celeste!!!!

  4. Denise R Ruiz on January 22, 2011 at 11:47 pm

    Hi Karen,

    I just got spammed tonight on my FB account, it is the first time and I don’t know what to do. Two of my friends let me know. One wasn’t happy and the other knew it wasn’t me. HOW do I get that ad off of there? There isn’t an X next to the ad, and I don’t know how to report it. Doesn’t help that I am sitting here concerned about it at 1am.

    THANK YOU:)!!

    Denise

    PS I didn’t know which “website” you wanted
    PS #2 I had just LIKEd your FB fan page yesterday at the suggestion of my AIHU sponsor, that is how I knew about you Karen. Thank you again:)!!

    • Karen
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      on January 23, 2011 at 5:24 pm

      @Denise R Ruiz, thanks for connecting! I’d suggest reporting it to FB. You might find a way to do it here, a directory of FB contact forms: http://www.marismith.com/how-to-contact-facebook-a-directory-of-120-forms/ Also check which applications you are allowing to access your profile:
      Go up to Account
      Down to Privacy Settings
      Down to Apps and Websites and then “Edit Your Settings”
      Edit Settings next to Apps You Use
      Then click on what’s in there to either remove or disallow posting.

      I am just thinking it might have been a breach through a 3rd party application which happens often.

      If there are some apps you signed up for (games etc) that aren’t critical to your happiness 🙂 I would remove them. Unfortunately there are loopholes in FB privacy that let the developers of apps access your info/account to use as they wish.

  5. sean on September 26, 2011 at 6:26 pm

    please dont critisie my religious beliefs if youre a born again christian or say how you feel sorry for people who havnt found god. Or dont post religious quotes or how enlightened you were after attending church every 10 minutes .

    • Karen
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      on August 29, 2012 at 5:15 pm

      Amen to that!

  6. Sara Eatherton-Goff on August 29, 2012 at 8:05 am

    This is a fantastic article! When I first started my Mary Kay business in October 2011, I over-used Facebook as a marketing tool! I started my Page and figured that out of 200+ friends on my personal profile, I had to get more than 20 Likes on my Page. So at least once a week I’d post a “Like and Share my Page for a 10% discount off your first order!”-type promotion. Maybe one added Like and I thought that maybe it wasn’t being seen and continued for a total of 6 weeks of annoyance. I learned the hard way when a friend posted an annoying “I lost all my contacts so send me your number in a Private Message” recurring post for 9 days, at least 2 to 4 times a day! Seeing how aggravating that was, I unsubscribed from her posts to a pod seeing it and realized, “I wonder how many people did that with me!”
    So now, no business posts, no political, no religious, no vents or rants, etc.
    My Page Likes all of a sudden started boosting on their own!

    Separating business and personal life is a fantastic marketing tool!

    Great article!

    • Karen
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      on August 29, 2012 at 8:56 am

      So glad you had that lesson! I think we just get SO excited about our business/product that we want to shout it from the mountain tops and expect everyone to flock to us – but the hard truth is that sends them running!! It’s the old “you attract more flies with honey” thing – give them what THEY want and they will come! Good luck in your biz!

  7. Pamela Burkart on August 29, 2012 at 2:22 pm

    I enjoyed your article and have to admit that when I started my business I was using my personal FB page. A higher-up mentioned not to do that and set up an business FB page. But I did not realize the Twitter – FB annoying posting. I appreciate your article and the advice!

    • Karen
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      on August 29, 2012 at 5:14 pm

      Thanks for your comment. I think a lot of people do not realize you can create a business page on Facebook! It works much better, for a lot of reasons!

  8. Lisa Owen on August 29, 2012 at 8:20 pm

    STOP spamming me with Event invites!! Omgoodness people abuse those!!

    • Karen
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      on August 29, 2012 at 8:25 pm

      YES! It makes it so they are so much less effective when you DO have an awesome juicy event people might actually want to attend. Like the boy crying wolf!

  9. DeAnn on August 29, 2012 at 8:52 pm

    Don’t post pictures of your belly just because you have some product you’re selling (or using) that claims to shrink bellies! I don’t want to see anyone’s belly, skinny or fat!

    • Karen
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      on August 29, 2012 at 9:41 pm

      Ahahahaha! OK Belly laugh! hehe Totally agree!

  10. Elizabeth on August 29, 2012 at 9:37 pm

    Stop posting “Lets see how many people really pay attention to my facebook page. If you care give it a like…blah blah blah” Its just a ploy for attention. I purposely will not “like” it and copy and paste it. Most times I pass right by and ignore it. Isn’t having you as a friend on facebook enough?

    • Karen
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      on August 29, 2012 at 9:43 pm

      You know when I saw that on my teen daughter’s Facebook friends’ pages I thought Ok they are young…but when I see it on grown adult’s Facebooks…It makes me wonder! Just because someone says to “copy and paste this as your status” doesn’t mean it’s a good idea! Good one!

  11. Devona Williams on September 1, 2012 at 8:22 am

    Hi Karen: Thanks for this comprehensive list. I see that some of my top annoyances are on here. I will keep these in mind too so that I don’t annoy others.

  12. Bernice p hicks on February 5, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Thank you. I enjoyed your article . It will be a great help to me .am try to set up a business
    Page on FB no sure how it works but am go to keep your word in mind as I set it up
    Thank again for your words

  13. Vanessa on March 6, 2013 at 5:10 pm

    1. Don’t tag yourself in photos you do not appear in just so they appear on your wall.
    (SUPER ANNOYING)
    2. Don’t share my personal photos with yourself and make the share private so I can’t see the conversation that is going on about MY PHOTO!! (AHHHHHH)

    THESE ARE MY TOP TWO, YOU PRETTY MUCH COVERED THE REST!
    ps this is an ongoing issue with ONE specific offender…I wish deleting this person was the solution but this may just be the beginning of an even bigger annoyance lol

    • Karen Clark
      Follow me on Twitter: mybizpresence
      on March 6, 2013 at 5:25 pm

      Oh WOW I think your #2 Vanessa takes the cake. I would probably not delete her if you can’t, but go to your privacy settings and for Photos instead of visible to friends choose Custom and then Hide From… and choose her name. I do that for my ex sometimes (shhh LOL)

  14. John Fisher on November 11, 2015 at 9:48 am

    I got put into Facebook jail because I run a Facebook group, and I require everyone who requests to join the group to send me the links for what they plan to post in the group before I will approve them So that they remember what group they requested to join, I send them the Facebook URL for the group, and because I sent them the URL Facebook put me in jail. I don’t think that’s proper. Looking for other opinions.

    • Karen Clark
      Follow me on Twitter: mybizpresence
      on November 11, 2015 at 12:13 pm

      How frustrating! Here you are trying to keep your group spam-free but got flagged for spam. I would simply stop sending them the link and instead just remind them of the name of the group and they will be able to use the search to find it again, or use the bookmark under the Groups section on the left sidebar. On one hand it is good FB is trying to protect us from spam but on the other hand without a way to appeal the FB Jail it makes it difficult to do business. Good luck!

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